A letter from the founder
I grew up watching my father break. When he and my mother divorced, something in him came apart that I don’t think ever fully mended. I was a boy, but I understood enough to take a lesson from it — one I have carried my whole life. The single most important thing a person can have is love. Not success, not comfort, not the approval of strangers. Love.
I was raised to believe that. And like most things we are raised to believe, I had to live it before I truly understood it.
My fiancée and I have come through real hardship together — the kind that doesn’t make for tidy stories, the kind that tests whether two people will turn toward each other or away. We turned toward each other. Not in one heroic moment, but in a thousand ordinary ones: the question asked instead of swallowed, the truth told gently, the attention paid on the days it would have been easier to look at a screen instead.
That is when I understood what no one had told me plainly: love is not a feeling you fall into. It is a practice you keep. And we live in an age almost perfectly designed to make us forget that — an age of distraction, of distance, of betrayal worn so casually it barely registers. Couples don’t usually fall apart in a single dramatic stroke. They drift. Quietly. The way a tide goes out.
I built Troth as a stand against that drift. The name is the whole idea. Troth is the old English word for a solemn pledge of fidelity — the root hidden inside betrothal. A vow. But a vow was never meant to be a single sentence said once in front of witnesses. It was meant to be kept. Morning after morning. In the small, unwitnessed hours where a relationship is actually made or lost.
So Troth gives you a small, sacred space to choose each other again — a private chat for the two of you, opened by a carefully chosen question. From there you talk in your own words, and the conversation moves, gently and over time, from the easy and the light to the things you have never dared to say. You show up because they show up. That quiet accountability is the heart of it. It is, in the most literal sense, a vow kept daily.
Humanity has always been moved forward by feeling — by anger and grief and longing — and the greatest of these has always been love. Troth is built from that belief, by someone who has staked his life on it. If it helps even one couple say the things that matter while they still can be said, it will have been worth every hour.
— The founder of Troth